Unemployed: training in positive thoughts.

Our brain can learn, adapt and mold itself, we just have to change our thoughts and intentions and focus our attention on doing it that way. Difficult situations, such as unemployment, make us fall into negative states. Here I will help you change that dynamic through simple exercises.

This training requires an internalization that you should start right now, because it is not difficult, we new can all achieve our goals and be in a state of happiness through our positive thoughts.

You should know that training our mind is a daily job. We want to get away from negative thoughts and that is when I should try to do everything possible to return to my tranquility and align myself with my best ideas, my positive thoughts and all the good that I can offer myself.

4 exercises to change to positive thoughts:

1.Identify the problems that at this moment take away your peace of mind . We must understand our current thinking position, know what are the thoughts that haunt my mind. If we do not know what the problem is, we cannot repair it or eliminate the negative thoughts that accompany it. Begin your training by writing on a sheet of paper the problem that overwhelms you most at the moment, just one. For example: “I have been unemployed for 6 months, I was fired from the company where I worked for 20 years.”

2. Identify the negative thoughts that accompany your problem . You can make a list of thoughts that accompany your problem, write down all the thoughts that come to mind, then you will be in charge of classifying them as positive (P) or negative (N). An example:

Problem: “I have been unemployed for 6 months, I was fired from the company where I worked for 20 years.”

Associated thoughts:

  • I feel like I will never get a job (N)
  • I feel older to get a new job, they always prefer younger people (N).
  • I know I have a lot of experience (P)
  • I don’t know what will become of me (N)
  • I feel that the new technologies surpass me (N)
  • I don’t know what else I can do (N)
  • If I had accepted that job that was offered to me years ago, now I would not find myself in this situation (N)
  • I am left with the feeling of having made very good friends and colleagues, they spent many years sharing (P)

Sometimes you can have several of these thoughts or all at the same time! If this happens, the consequence is that a feeling of fear, insecurity and defenselessness will begin to invade us. If you train your mind, you will get your negative thoughts to go as fast as they have come, you do not need to stop on them or analyze each of your thoughts, all we want to do is get those negative thoughts to leave our mind.

3. Decide to see things differently: we are already advancing in the training, you have already begun to identify your negative thought patterns, now it is time to decide to see things differently. Starting today, every time you notice a negative thought in your mind, you will change it for a positive one. Forget the past and focus on the possibilities you have right now. Let’s see it in our example:

Negative thinking: “I feel like I will never get a job.” Change it to : “it’s only been 6 months since I was fired, I have to keep trying to get a new job”

Negative thought: “I feel old to get a new job.” Change it to: “Age has given me the experience that they will surely require in a company”

Negative thought: “I don’t know what will become of me.” change it to: “my luck has to change, until then, I’ll find out about help, courses or whatever is necessary to keep me in an active job search.”

Negative thinking: “I feel that the new technologies surpass me”. Change it to: “Now that I have more time, I will look at some tutorials to stay a little up-to-date on new technologies. I will find out if there is a basic course or tutorial that can help me ”.

Negative Thought: “I don’t know what else I can do.” Change it to: surely there are more things I can do, I will find out, I will call, I will ask. If you think you’ve done everything, then you have to start over !!: send resumes, social networks, acquaintances, friends, etc.

Negative thinking: “if I had accepted that job that was offered to me years ago, now I would not find new myself in this situation.” Change it to: “I will not be remembering past opportunities, the past is past, now I have to focus on what I can do now, which is a lot.”

4. Create a pleasant, calm environment that you associate with good times : don’t be one of those people who have a daily ritual to deepen or idealize their sadness or problem. Do not be one of the people who go in the car and play romantic music so that by association of ideas, you can feel sad, miserable or abandoned. Do not make the decision to live a sad life, make the decision to live a calm, healthy and happy life. Create your environments with people who make you feel good, surround yourself with colors, happy music, television programs that make you smile and not make you feel even more miserable, dress happily, read articles that keep you away from sadness , watch laugh videos. I understand that doing all of this is easy to say and difficult to do, butthink that we are doing a training and that with time we will begin to see the results .

Start your training right now, you do not need extra time, you only need some time to internalize that you want to change and that will only be the first times, then it will become a way of life: being a person who seeks the positive in each situation.

Here’s a quote from Stephen Craner:

“He who can change his thinking, can change his destiny.”